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Gabi Talks, mental health, video

Gabi Talks – Meeting Praise with Self Criticism (video)

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One of my favorite activities is starting conversations with random strangers. I love meeting people and making friends!

One of my “super powers” is finding the beauty in almost everyone I meet, and reflecting it back like a mirror. Sometimes my compliments are met with a “thank you”, quickly followed by a bunch of self-criticism. Why do so many people do that? Perhaps the real questions is, “Why do I do that sometimes, too?” Continue reading Gabi Talks – Meeting Praise with Self Criticism (video) →

Gabi Talks, LGBTQ, mental health, transgender, video

Gabi Talks – Suicide is Not the Solution (video)


Trigger warning: This video contains personal suicide experience details.

Approximately half the transgender population has attempted suicide, myself included. We don’t have a genetic predisposition to self destruct, but rather struggle with gender dysphoria, social rejection, and the insane cost of full medical transition (which is not covered by most medical insurance providers). Continue reading Gabi Talks – Suicide is Not the Solution (video) →

Gabi Talks, LGBTQ, mental health, transgender

Gabi Talks – Transgender Suicide (video)

Depression and suicidal behavior runs exceptionally high among the transgender population. It’s been many years since my last suicide attempt, and I still struggle to this day, as do countless others.

No one should feel so terrible that ending their life feels more desirable than having to endure another day of overwhelming, indescribable emotional pain and suffering.

We can improve things by creating awareness, discussing the realities of transgender suicide, and working together to ensure everyone gets the support and help they need. Continue reading Gabi Talks – Transgender Suicide (video) →

Dear Gabi Advice Column, mental health

Dear Gabi, I’m a Young Crossdresser Confused About My Sexual Orientation

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Dear Gabi,

I’ve just recently discovered your website and wish I would have earlier in my exploration of crossdressing. ;) I’m 18 now and have accepted who I am, been dressing up since I was young, 5 or 6. I’ve come to terms with a lot of stuff, and I’m no longer ashamed of who I am. I have a loving girlfriend for almost a year now who knows everything as well, she is very accepting and supportive =)

My problem deals with my sexual orientation, I know I’m attracted to girls, thus my girlfriend, but while dressed, I find I’m always craving guys, so for a while I just thought I was bisexual, until when I was 16 had my first relationship and sexual experience with a guy. Now he was a full time crossdresser, even during high school, I think that was the main attraction. I was so turned on being with him, and kissing him. Anything to do with touching or seeing his genitals didn’t turn me off, but didn’t turn me on. I love the feeling of anal sex (from a male), turns me on immensely.

So basically I’m kind of confused, I look at a normal guy and I’m not turned on, but I always find myself thinking about having sex with a male and strap-ons with my girlfriend just doesn’t feel the same. I know it’s a vague question as well, I’m still young and exploring and advice would be amazing :)

Angel

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Dear Gabi Advice Column, mental health

Dear Gabi, My Crossdressing Honey Feels Like a Freak

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Dear Gabi,

Three years ago, I hooked up with my (yes, this is a cliche) High School SWEETHEART. We’re both in our late 40’s… divorced… kids… yawn yawn blah blah. He came out to me about 9 months after we re-initiated our relationship. He’s a cross dresser. Her name is Kelly. I am all for it. No problem. Be what makes you happy. Life is short. But it doesn’t always make him/her happy. He thinks he’s a freak. His ex never knew this about him. He’s known his whole life. What can I do to convince him that all is good… I love “them” the way they are. It’s now been 3 years. I moved from California to Michigan during an American financial crisis for “f” sake. I love him. Have since I was 14. I come from the land of fruits and nuts. I refuse to judge anyone… EVER!! Living in this closed minded world I have found Michigan to be is not an easy transition, so I understand his trepidation. HELP!! The people here have stunted his mental growth! He fights with me. When he’s Kelly… all is good until something (ie the door bell rings) sets him off. He becomes paranoid and rips away Kelly faster than you can sneeze. Then proceeds to be depressed for days! I have his back! He’s not alone anymore. What more can I do??

Lori

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Dear Gabi Advice Column, mental health

Dear Gabi, What Should I Expect From Therapy?

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Dear Gabi,

I have just approached a therapist about some sessions as I feel my crossdressing is starting to effect my relationship. My girlfriend is understanding in a way but is still not overly keen.

It is just me who will be attending, as we both feel there are issues I need to address which could all be linked. Short temper for no apparent reason like I get really mad about the most silly things. My girlfriend thinks it’s always before I need to dress. She does not want to see me dressed though. I think I need to get a good understanding of why I need to dress other than “I love that dress!!”. I feel I’m rambling on a bit so apologies for that. I don’t wish for it to go any further than our home but I don’t want to always be alone when dressed but not sure she will ever want to get involved.

I just wondered what is the main objective of this type of therapy. I am nervous and not sure what to expect.

Best regards,

Tina
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Dear Gabi Advice Column, mental health

Dear Gabi, Discovered by Wife… HELP!

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Dear Gabi,

Thanks for your page, I will be back to visit. I have dressed off/on since 5 years old. In an off phase went dated and married.

Had gotten back into and understand and accept now that it is part of me and great stress relief. Almost cost me my job due to poor reaction to stress.

I was trying to decide how to talk with my wife about it and left a journal site open. Now she knows before I was quite ready. I have seen your How to Tell Your Wife You’re a Crossdresser page but am looking for any other help tips there might be. If you have any, thanks.

I haven’t looked at everything here but your en femme pictures are awesome, you make very nice looking woman. If I can get half as cute as you I will be happy.

Good luck and enjoy in the future.

Sincerely,

Georgette
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